Louise Morganti Kaelin
Did you know that it takes energy to NOT do something or to NOT deal with a situation? Every time we put off some task or chore, we start using energy to remember to do it. We also use energy to avoid doing it. Once you start thinking about how many things you are putting up with, it's easy to realize that there is an incredible amount of energy that could be available to you just by addressing these time-drainers. These items are often referred to as tolerations. Here is a simple strategy for zapping your tolerations and freeing up all that energy.
1. On a clean piece of paper, make a list of all things you are tolerating or 'putting up with'.
These can (and should) be from all areas of your life. They can be big or small. But all of them are probably things that keep running around in your head as 'I really need to …, I can't stand xxx anymore, etc.' Some examples: I really need to: call the electrician, fix the broken light switch, clean off my desk, take the car for a tune-up, finish a report or project, organize my office, unpack, buy shampoo, talk tos, I can't stand my son's messy bedroom, the way my neighbor lets stuff pile up in his front yard. You get the idea. Keep writing until you run out of things to write.
2. For each item, decide the following and take the appropriate action.
(a) It's totally in my control. Take Nike's advice: Just do it.
(b) I have influence over this situation. Use your influence to change it.
(c) I have neither control nor influence. Take yourself out of the situation or accept it. Accepting it means there is no longer an emotional involvement. You truly accept it.
3. Keep plugging at your list until it's gone. Add items as they come to mind or situations arise. Pay attention to those items that are related. Would doing one big thing take care of them all? And it may be helpful to think about what the payoff is for you in not taking care of these items.
4. Start using this new-found energy to work on your goals and dreams, the things you really feel good about, and that will make you feel good about yourself.
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(c) Louise Morganti Kaelin. Louise is a Life Success Coach who partners with individuals who are READY (to live their best life), WILLING (to explore all options) and ABLE (to accept total support). Find many free resources to assist you in living the life of your dreams at http://www.touchpointcoaching.com For her free newsletter of insightful, practical suggestions for creating your best life, email mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org